VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN: Isn’t it great when justice prevails?

I’m so happy today!

I’ve just received a phone call from a friend. Some years ago, she was beaten up by an ex-boyfriend. She was deeply traumatised, but fear didn’t prevent her from doing the right thing. She pressed charges against him.

Today her aggressor was convicted.

It’s amazing how women victims of violence are still seen by society, especially by other women, as weak people who probably got what they deserved, who probably did something wrong to deserve punishment, or that simply deserved it because it’s their fault that they are weak. The sense of hopelessness and shame prevents many to denounce their aggressors, or even to share what happened to them with someone else.

There are many women alienated by their owners who control their minds that they don’t even realise that they have rights. They interiorise the idea that it’s them who misbehaved, thereby rightly deserving punishment.

My friend too was depicted as a weak person, especially by her colleagues at work, who loved to gossip about the fact that she often had to go on medical-psychiatric leave. The fact that she is a beautiful, elegant woman only added fuel to the gossip, by generating envy. So, not only she had been subjected to physical and psychological abuse by her former boyfriend, but she was also morally harrassed at work, receiving no solidarity except from a few friends.

Today my friend had her dignity restored. She was given justice, AND she also proved that she is not a weak person, but in fact a very strong woman.

In only some hours, already four women who work in the same company have approached her to tell her that they too are victims of violence.

…In this year only, as much as 17 women may have been killed in Portugal by their husbands/boyfriends/whatever-you-want-to-call-them, acording to UMAR, a feminist NGO.

Here is some very useful information for women victims of domestic violence compiled by the portuguese NGO APAV (in portuguese).

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2 responses to “VIOLENCE AGAINST WOMEN: Isn’t it great when justice prevails?

  1. AM

    My Dear Sarah

    Thank you for sharing.

    Please transmit my admiration, my very best wishes and all my solidarity to your friend.

    She did the right thing and she deserves to be looked as a model by all other women that suffer in silence.

    As you know, I am married to a women (:-)) and father of the most wonderful project of women.

    It is very hard for me to put in words what I feel for a man that beats his wife or girlfriend, and, as a children grown in a “middle class family” in this miserable place called Portugal, I know well enough what I am talking about.

    May You, Your Friend and every Women like You, give some of the strength that so many more Women still miss.

    Thank you both in the name of my daughter.

    AM

  2. sarahfranco

    nunca a deixe acreditar que ela é fraca…

    isto não tem a ver com classes sociais, mas sim com a obsessão de poder que muitas pessoas têm.

    a violência é isso mesmo: o produto da vontade de algumas pessoas de dominarem as outras.

    geralmente isto começa de forma muito insidiosa. o problema é agravado por alguns traços culturais, como a ideia de que as mulheres devem apresentar-se frágeis como as flores, ou a aceitação dos actos de ciúme como provas de amor (esta é a minha favorita).

    dê uma olhada nos links que vale a pena, pode ser que encontre lá pistas no sentido de educar a sua filha contra a submissão e o conformismo.